Therapy for Couples

In-person in Davis & Online throughout California

Don’t know where to turn when communication breaks down?

You’ve tried endlessly to find new ways to communicate, even resorted to texting each other because that’s, at times, easier. Even the smallest tasks seem to spark an argument. Seems like it’s always been this way but lately it’s been getting worse. You notice your partner pulling away or feel like you are in this relationship alone.

Maybe you’re noticing:

  • A decrease in communication

  • Less intimacy or physical touch

  • Feeling emotionally missed or misunderstood

  • You are not able to express your emotional needs without your partner becoming defensive

  • A recent event sparked anger, hurt feelings, and mistrust and you both do not know how to go back to the way things once were

Couples therapy can help both of you

How couples therapy works

Your couples therapist will gather personal history, information about the relationship, personal traumas, or significant past events in each personal lifetime.

Together you will find a goal to achieve in therapy. Your therapist will guide you to begin to understand the patterns of behavior that keep you both stuck in an argument loop. Creating new ways of understanding, growing, and working together finding new ways of communicating with each other. Sometimes one partner or both will need extra support to heal old wounds and past hurts.

What we’ll work on

Couples therapy can help you

  • Increase communication

  • Increase intimacy

  • Build a deeper emotional connection with your partner

  • Understand your needs

  • Learn how to express your emotional needs and desires to your partner

  • Understand your partner’s emotional needs

Find a deeper emotional bond, lasting connection, and intimacy

We are here to help you get there

FAQS

Common questions about couples therapy

  • Anytime. In most cases, starting as soon as you think you might need therapy is best. Waiting for things to explode or get really intense can take longer to find a sense of calm again.

  • Ideally once a week. Many couples have more movement towards their goals if they are seen weekly. The more time between sessions can slow down the progress towards goals.

  • It’s common for one partner to want to start therapy and the other to not want to go or be unsure. We encourage couples to try at least 3 sessions, or one partner can come in to start therapy